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Post by Rick Redner on Apr 19, 2013 10:40:36 GMT -5
Here's my top 10 list of ways we can wound ourselves and those around us: 1. Believe your cancer was a matter of fate, bad luck, or being dealt a bad hand and assume nothing positive can come from your experience with prostate cancer. 2. Live selfishly. Have an affair, dump your partner and/or the rest of your family in pursuit of your own pleasure. 3. Live fearfully. Spend hours obsessing about cancer in your waking hours, and loose sleep at night as you imagine the worst possible outcomes. 4. Tie the meaning of your life to your performance in the bedroom. 5. Loose your self esteem and manhood until you regain your erectile abilities 6. Become cranky and irritable. Flight a lot with your partner and children. 7. Hold grudges and loose friends- At some point or another most of your friends and family will disappoint you. Hold that against them for the rest of your life. 8. Give up all forms of physical affection- If you can’t perform in the bedroom the way you like, give up everything, holding hands, kissing, tender touch, all forms of pleasurable affection are to be avoided like the plague. 9. Isolate yourself emotionally from your partner-make sure you keep your struggles to yourself and that your partner will struggle alone as well. 10. Live without hope- believe that prostate surgery ruined your life forever and you’d be better of dead.
At some point in our journey all of these thoughts can occur. However if we keep them as guideposts to our life and our behavior we have truly wasted our experience with cancer. Sadly you can also waste the rest of your life.
If you are stuck in any of these attitudes, please consider seeking out professional help.
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